Susie Q's ickle biddy blog

You may think that is a nasty thing to say, but I will tell you why I say that she is horrible.
On another entry on my blog I explained that she hadn't been to see my mum in the care home since last Christmas, I can't remember when I posted it, well up until yesterday she still hadn't been, she went to visit mum yesterday morning, when asked why she hadn't been she said she hadn't been well and was short of money, Bl**dy H*ll that's everyday of my life and I still manage to go and see my mum, poor thing she's had to sell her car and her other half's motor bike, but she has a new car and has moved house (bought not rented), I have a very old car thatI have had for 4 years, the exhaust is held on by cord (that's the crafter's way of repair lol) I have to blow the front tyre up everyday before I use the car cos can't afford a new one and in teh cold weather the battery goes flat and has to be charged up, but I still manage to visit, my health is bad I am diabetic and have arthritis and a lot of other problems, but again I still visit, so where is she coming from, we suspect she's after money, but mum hasn't any left so thatmay be why she doesn't visit anymore as she already owes mum thousands that she borrowed a few years ago, and she also all but cleaned her out when she had control over my mum's cards. She was my mum's favourite and I was all too aware of the fact and I was more in tune with my dad, though he died 23 years ago so it was difficult watching the person she thought the most of treating her with such utter lack of thought and consideration.
I will apologise now for the rant but things build up and although I sound off to my husband he just agrees and doesn't really understand. Thank you for listening Sue xxx

i say those that have plenty think only of themselves and those that have nothing give to others as much as they can and are more generous, im sure deep down your mum realises that you are the one there for her unlike your selfish sister, she cant change your upbringing and may never admit but she probably appreciates you more now over your sister,

In her confused state she seems to be giving away her possesions, so that they will go to the right one after she has gone, she says, she wants me to have a Santa Claus she said my dad got it when I was a baby, but I know she got it in the ex catalogue shop in the 90s, it is so hard not to contradict her, but she seems to be wantng me to have stuff that she considers sentimental before my sister gets her hands on things she says so maybe she does appreciate me more now, who knows. My sister was always the blue eyed girl and could do no wrong maybe at last she has come to realise that she's not. xx

Oh Susie,
I'ts so hard when you are sat there and can see what is happening, but can't really say anything because it will all just turn nasty if you do. At least your conscience is clear and those that matter most to you will know you have done your best. Keep up the good work with your Mam, however hard it is now. When she is gone you will be pleased you did.

Love Shirley

Hi Susie,

I know what you mean when it comes to horrible sister's. My sister is the same. My mum as just left my dad after 33 years of marriage and my sister was involved in all of this. My mum would never had the nerve to leave my Dad and my dad couldn't do anything right because my sister was always getting involved with things she shouldn't have. I am trying to get my daughter sorted so I didn't get involved like I should have been the oldest. My dad got divorce papers the other day just in time for Christmas and mum wants everything. I have not been invited to the new flat because my sister lives with mum and I am not aloud there. My sister is in total control of my mum. My mum couldn't have batteries for the musical Christmas things she has because my sister wouldn't let her. The only reason my mum still talks to me is because of Jennifer her only Grand daughter. If it wasn't Jennifer I would be written out of mum life.

Susie if you want a rant at me you know where I am! I just have to make sure I am there for both of them and help when I can.

Luv Jane XX

i know exactly where YOU are coming from i went through exactly the same when my dad went in to a home.you have my sympathy.at least one day you will have nothing on your concience.
love Gail x

I'v only just started to read about you and your sister and I really feel for you,as it brought back a lot of my bad memories of the past.All I can say is don't let it make you like her. One day your conscience will be clear and your memories true, also make sure you remember it all as I'm sure she will remember only what she wants to.Take care x

Treasure each moment with your mother, your sister may one day realise
that what stands between you is only envy, try to realise that you are your own person,and stand up in your own right, Sisters can be the best of friends
or the worst of enemies,its never going to be an easy situation. But in the end,she is your sister,lets hope she realises this, hugs and blessings sandra

I have just joined and was reading through some of your blogs. Is that your beautiful black and white cat? I had one very like it and had to put it down last year. Hope things are improving for you.

Makes me almost glad that I don't have a sister!!
I do believe in karma - what goes around comes around and so if your Sister is not being nice towards your Mum, one day she will learn and realise how she was.
Try not to let your Sister's antics affect you, just continue to show your love and support towards your Mum like you are doing now. Reacting to her might just aggravate you and your family more so best to try as much as possible not to think about her.